♥ DAILY LOVE TIP – Wednesday January 18, 2012
♥Good Morning to yooooouuuuu,
OK so I get it!…..thinks I, rolling out of bed…words pouring out of me wanting to be written before they disappear…….and yet having a struggle with the part of me that is protesting and wants to stay in bed after being up late last night writing yesterday’s post,….. yet my soul is speaking to me and I have learned when that happens is a good time to listen…and, to receive……
I was lying there in that half asleep/half awake place with thoughts about two of my ♥Beloveds…..I started with one who is in a lot of pain at the moment and as you do…..or more correctly – as I do….. thinking of ways to be there for the pain for them – to find what would take away the pain – and I’m surprised as I find my thoughts going down the path of 
thinking about how one very big style or way of being of this person is that they don’t have an active practice of Gratitude, of saying “Thank You”….On the surface they do but deep down they don’t……
…..Then I drifted to thinking of another person close to me……you know that kind of free-associating-type-of-thinking where your mind just wanders like ambling *•.¸¸¸.•*¨¨*•.¸¸¸.•*•♥♥♥¸.•*¨¨*•.¸¸¸. and meandering……. down a slow-moving creek …..and I realized they too don’t have an active practice of saying “Thank You”….and one of the things they notice and criticize is people not being generous…….and how they usually push themselves forward to be first in line for whatever is being offered ….and thinking back to the first person they also have the energy of whatever you give them it is never enough….
And then next……Yay!…*•.¸¸¸.•*¨¨*•.¸¸¸..•*¨¨*•.¸¸¸.•*•♥♥♥•* my thinking and noticing 
was on ME……and An Epiphany! – A LIGHT BULB MOMENT! – A L.B.M. ! for short……. I am not good at receiving and taking in people’s appreciation and gratitude – Yes, I do it at that surface intellectual, head level …….I say ‘the right words’…….but inside at the soul and heart and energy level I am really S-Q-U-I-R-M-I-N-G…….. and it isn’t allowed inside my body ….. and I really get that there is no accident that these ♥Beloveds are an important part of my life….
Then my thinking meanders to a comment from a client yesterday that went something like – Susie, you really don’t know how good you are at what you do….if anyone is going to get to my husband, it’s you……and saving her marriage is what this woman is committed to……. and supporting and coaching them how to do that is my job and my commitment as well…..And this takes some more S-Q-U-I-R-M-I-N-G to write…….. I do KNOW, with their co-operation, how to do that.
And I think of another long term client who would regularly at the end of sessions deeply appreciate me for the insights and healing that he had experienced….. who one time said he didn’t feel that I was taking in his acknowledging and valuing of me…..and asked me to mirror back what he had said…. which I did through my logical, literal self but I can see and feel now that I didn’t and wasn’t able to do it through my heart and soul energy……
Oh how so very impossible it is to take in what we don’t have receptors for….it’s like when people do give, it just bounces off – like water off the proverbial duck’s back….or another immediate image that comes to mind is like trying to put coins in a metre that is jammed or full and won’t take anymore…..
So how does this happen♥….Are some people just born good at taking in things and others not, and that is the way it will be for their life♥ No fortunately. With awareness and insight, emotional processing and repeated intensive practice of the new behaviours change happens…..
What I experienced as I was growing up was I overheard my mother telling other people what a good girl I was and how I worked hard, but she didn’t tell me…..
So what the child part of me interpreted from that and was thus wired to believe
1) I am good but it is not OK for people to tell me and,
2) That is how ‘the world’ will treat me
The child through repeated interaction with their ‘care-givers’ and the people around them creates a self-image and a world-image…
And then next Epiphany – I’m really getting why I have been struggling with what I have perceived as limited amounts of comments and it also explains quite a few other things in my life…..All because there has only been a very small receptor in me for receiving them….And one thing I notice happens, or maybe we could say it is the way the universe works or an ancient spiritual law or the like – what is written on our souls / on our T-shirts is what we get…or as is loosely quoted in Law of Attraction and Creating your Own Reality literature – what we put out is what we get back!
“The universal Law of Attraction states that we draw to us those people, events, and circumstances that match our inner state of being…….”
So mine reads differing versions of – don’t give to me; don’t thank me, acknowledge me, etc and as well…….wait for it – I’m thinking there’s another level – It’s not only that we are not wired for it and we don’t have the receptors….it is like we are allergic to those very things we long for the most and are not experiencing we are getting!
And, it is interesting for me to reflect and notice that my Beloved daughter ♥Freea has always been so generous and bighearted in her appreciating and valuing of me …..it’s so wonderful how our kids are given to us to teach us so many of the things we need to learn….she has always been so innocently and creatively forthcoming and I do take in that I am her Super Duper Awesome MUMMY (and legendary too! :O) – and I have boxes of her abundant cards and drawings and notes and the many treasures and gifts she continues to surprise me with…….like this one….
Looking back through some old posts I have touched on this theme many times….and I have felt like my cry has fallen on ‘deaf ears’ – it is more like I have been deaf to hearing what has been given to me!!
[And this ♥TOOL is like one of those SIGNS you see – BREAK GLASS IN CASE OF EMERGENCY]
Do NOT underestimate the power of our unconscious to create our world – in fact, NEVER underestimate it…..
So briefly, THE STEPS are:
1. Notice what is showing up continually in your life in the people in relation to you – especially the things that trigger, frustrate or irritate you or that you judge and criticize
2. Know whatever irritates, triggers, frustrates you (and especially if you criticize and judge it) is about YOU.
Take the example of a client phoning yesterday who is still in the final stages of divorcing from his wife and is distraught because the lady he has had ‘a fantastic relationship’ with for the last 11 months has decided she doesn’t want to be with him anymore and who, like his wife, has not prioritized him in her life throughout their relationship….You take YOU with you wherever you go. It is not about them. It is about YOU. I say you enroll the people that matter to you to give you whatever is wired in you. If he doesn’t heal and change that message inside him he will attract another woman who will do the same!
3. So if you don’t want it to be repeating in your life then YOU have work to do. It’s the same as you don’t send your partner to the dentist because you have a toothache. The difference in the Imago work is that you do your work in relation to your partner and that is the quickest way for you to change your behaviours and your life and there is always a growth edge for them as you learned in ♥ DAILY LOVE TIP – Saturday January 7, 2012.
4. And the work to do is to go back and uncover the links to your childhood conditioning and to cut the emotional ties to the default beliefs and resulting behaviours in you…..knowing there is probably several layers to go down through so it may come up over and over in different forms for a while till it is cleared……….
I think I’ll leave it there now and share how I see this is what the Law of Attraction is all about in another post and introduce you to the teachings of a lady that I value – Lynn Grabhorn.
I am NOW, after months of dancing around this, ready, willing and serious to practice receiving and taking in THE 8 A’s from our Communication ♥TOOLBOX – TREASURE CHEST
The Communication ♥TOOLBOX/TREASURE CHEST
Accept
Acknowledge
Admire
Adore
Advocate for
Affirm
Give Affection
Give Attention
So I am throwing myself open to the universe as I need lots of practice in taking in – so universe bring on the ACCOLADES! – the tributes, the compliments, the praise, the honouring, the rave reviews,…..and all of the 8 A’s!!!! YIKES! Oh my gosh what have I put out here♥ Dare I leave this paragraph in♥♥♥♥
Another ♥NOTE TO SELF: it is time to read Dr Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt’s RECEIVING LOVE: Transform YOUR Relationship by Letting Yourself be LOVED! I’ll review it as I go along…..
Question for you: what has been an important epiphany for you and/or what has been your greatest epiphany♥ Share with a ♥Beloved or journal about it….
I do want to say that one of the greatest gifts in receiving is that it offers ‘the other’ the JOY of giving which feels so good, so in not receiving you are denying them that opportunity!
So ♥Folks, my heartfelt thanks again for reading and holding this sacred space for me as I grow more fully into who I really am…..
‘When in the dark, go lightly (Lindy Capelli’s motto). When in the spotlight, go humbly. When in the light, go thankful. Choose joy.” ~ some wise words from Glenn Capelli today
Susie – righteous, outasight, way, way delicious entry!
You rock!!!!!!
This really hit home: .”I say ‘the right words’…….but inside at the soul and heart and energy level I am really S-Q-U-I-R-M-I-N-G…….. and it isn’t allowed inside my body.”
Yup – that would be my growing edge too – deep-down-body-soul-heart-receiving of yummy mirroring. I’m inspired to be curious about this in my interactions with others – and pause when I feel that micro contraction in my body – and breath open the space for more receiving.
Letting it rip has been part of my 2012 self-care, self-honoring practice. Letting it rip for me means not editing my creative impulses – not letting my fear of judgment or rejection stop my flow.
So – I value your letting it rip – and not editing that bit about – bring it on universe – abundance of ACCOLADES!!!
I’m pouring you a big, overflowing, sweet cup of appreciation, gratitude, and admiration for the way you skillfully and playfully put into words the core themes of human existence – and offer tools for making our way home to a place of peaceful belonging.
Namaste, eliz
Oh ♥Elizabeth, dear kindred soul – how lovely to have you S-Q-U-I-R-M-I-N-G right along with me…
I love your self-care, self-honoring practice of ‘Letting it rip’….not editing your creative impulses – not letting your fear of judgment or rejection stop your flow – oh how powerful is that…
I have a special ♥heart shaped box that I am going to put near my computer and use it as a ♥treasure box – a container for all the amazing and beautiful heart-&-soul words you continuously shower me with and pour all over me and fill me up with.
I’ll take a photo and post it ….Much ♥LOVE Susie.
Thankyou for sharing this powerful personal insight…..you are a truly amazing person. Suzi
♥Suzi, Thank you! I’ve been thinking of you so wonderful to hear from you. It’s a privilege to share my story and insights with you. Hope all is well, ♥LOVE Susie.
Suzie your blog is assisting me every day with how I see the world. Thank you for the positivity that fills your writing. Sandy
Thank you ♥Sandy, It’s a gift for me to know that I am assisting you with how you see the world…..I’m imaging my positivity flowing on to helping you to create more positivity in your life and relationship and family….What an amazing ZNZ zone and No SCABS world for you all….. With appreciation for caring, ♥LOVE Susie.
Hi Susie. Glad you picked up you didn’t fully embrace how wonderful & talented you are. You have a gift. I am blessed to have you in my life fighting along side me. Love Gaelia
♥Gaelia, Thank you again! I am wonderful and talented and gifted!!! Yay!!! Did I get you♥
It is a joy to be along side of you in your dedication and commitment to
growing your marriage into being ♥Extraordinary …. I feel so blessed and inspired by your ♥LOVE and tenacity. ♥LOVE Susie.
How beautiful you are!!!
So glad to find your space here
….sending bright hope to fertilize
of your beautiful epiphany
strong and shiny:)
love to you in all of your receiving,
Jennifer
♥Jennifer, what a delight to have you visit 🙂
Yes – I am beautiful [S-Q-U-I-R-M] and you and all the other wonderful ladies visiting with me and us all are making me feel even more beautiful…….
I receive your “bright hope” and love…fertilizing and growing……
Just had a peek at your http://ripplespeak.com/ – full of images of the heart & soul – Specially like – “WILDLY grateful for all the ways Love can heal, restore, warm, lighten and lift”…hearts that…. “get broken, sick, heavy, cold and hard…”
I imagine a beautiful relationship with you, ♥LOVE Susie.
MUMMY! ** You ARE AWESOME!! **
With a BIG Heart and cuddly Arms and a FANTASTIC Smile.
Not sure you got that the first time, so here’s it again and again..
You ARE AWESOME!!
You ARE AWESOME!!
You ARE AWESOME!!
You ARE AWESOME!!
You ARE AWESOME!!
<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3
PS That was a beautiful spring day in Ireland.. so many memories.
♥Freea ♥Sweetyheart ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥
I Got It! I have a BIG Heart and cuddly Arms and a FANTASTIC Smile…..AND
I AM AWESOME!!
I AM AWESOME!!
I AM AWESOME!!
I AM AWESOME!!
I AM AWESOME!!
LOVE you, your AWESOME, LEGENDARY adoring MUMMY♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥
And Yes I have very special memories of that beautiful spring day in Ireland 🙂
Susie, although I have never made a comment on your blog until now, I want you to know that I read everyone of them, and not just once. They are welcome positive, encouraging messages that I look forward to. I appreciate the time you spend to write them and the wisdom and insights you share. I appreciate your continued belief in us as a couple, even in what often looks to me like impossible circumstances. I appreciate your availability to guide and coach us, and your patience with our repeated stumblings. I appreciate your dedication most of all. Love, Shireen
Hi ♥Shireen, a warm Hello♥ to you…
Thank you for all those GREAT and SPECIAL Appreciations – for my positive, encouraging messages, my time, my wisdom & insights, my continued belief in you as a couple, my availability, my patience and most of all my dedication!! You’re very welcome!
And knowing how dedicated YOU are I would imagine you thoroughly reading every post…..searching out everyone of them and putting into practice what will support you rebuilding and healing your marriage. Your commitment is amazing and such a gift!
And yes I do believe in YOU both individually and as a couple. Please do share your wisdom more with us, ♥LOVE Susie.
Dear Susie,
You are amazing that you keep up your blog and share so much with us. Your ‘ramblings’ yesterday have been of help in discovering why I have been regretting some things I did way in the past. Why these regrets came up I know not. But I do accept when it comes up powerfully that there is something more to learn from it. So I have been looking for meanings and your blog is giving me greater insight and clearing some of the negativity I was feeling. How closely we need to watch our thoughts. It’s the default we move into when we let our awareness slip.
Thankyou again, dear Susie.
Helen
My pleasure dear ♥Helen, Great to hear from you.
Apologies for not responding promptly. I so appreciate you for commenting and sharing your ponderings……. It’s great to hear that my blog has assisted you to gain insight and to clear some of the negativity.
And a big YES to how closely we need to watch our thoughts – all the time!! Letting our awareness slip makes relationships unsafe and so hazardous!…..And how quick our default clicks in when we let our awareness slip!!!!
Hope you are gaining more understanding of ‘your regrets’. A suggestion is to ask your wonderful John to ♥Mirror you as you just free associate…with him asking lots of “tell me more…………’ Be interested to hear how you go…..
♥LOVE Susie.
Hey Susie – are you feeling the love♥♥ I’d say you got a full force YES to your request to be seen and celebrated!! ;))
Yes ♥Elizabeth – I am feeling the huge ♥LOVE!!
And WOW! to getting a a full force YES to my request to be seen and celebrated!! 🙂
WoooooHoooooo! ♥LOVE & gratefulness to all, Susie.
Thanks Susie. I usually quickly browse at your posts in my hectic world, this morning I have woken up in Dunsborough, having the joy of a few days off. I have been travelling well, feeling the curiosity and usually getting the blessing of insight ( I also thank my beautiful friend Kim for teaching and sharing). Today I have woken with restlessness and I am so thankful for what you have taught me. I know when I am in pain or unsettled, there is growth and love available. So thank you to you and all the beautiful souls that help me in my lifes journey.
Annie xx
Hello ♥Annie sweetie,
Apologies for not responding promptly – I haven’t forgotten you……and it is great to hear that you took some time off and took care of yourself and that you took some of your precious time to share with us…..
I do appreciate hearing how things have been for you and that you have been travelling well and that your insight has been serving you….. That makes sense to me knowing you.
Hope your restlessness has settled and you have been gifted with the growth and ♥LOVE you so deserve….and thank you for popping in from time to time visiting the blog and sharing…much appreciated knowing your hectic life….hope all is going well with your studies. With ♥LOVE & admiration, Susie.
With love <3 and many thanks Susie. xx
Thank you Susie for your generous , huge and uncontaminated heart. For sharing it all with us. Simplistically ::: YES, THANK YOU, and LOVE…that’s all that matters…or in other words… POSITIVITY, GRATITUDE and CHERISHING……. OMNIA VINCIT AMOR…Helena.
Hello dear ♥Helena,
What a great acknowledgement! My “generous, huge and uncontaminated heart” – Love it! Wow!
♥LOVE…POSITIVITY, GRATITUDE and CHERISHING……. may these be the surrounding us all…..
With ♥LOVE & blessings, Susie.