LOVE TIP – Monday June 11th, 2012


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I’m sure there are some of you out there who are like me. Night Owls. It’s 3:00 AM. That’s 3 in the middle of the morning or night whichever way you look at it. In fact, it’s 10 past 3AM! Yikes!

You know, being on Facebook makes it difficult to remember there is such a thing as bedtime as at least half my Friends live on the other ‘side’ of the planet where it is daytime when we have sleep time….there is a perpetual awake world!

Now I’m asking myself The Obvious Question. You see I’ve been writing… reading ….writing…….reflecting…..pondering……more writing. And now it is this late/early and I’m hungry. For food….♥ I think so. Do I go to bed♥ Or….Do I satisfy my internal nudging and stay up some more♥

So, it’s a Yes. That’s Yes to hungry for food. I think……So I’m making a piece of toast layered with my favourite beetroot dip, next the hummus and sun dried tomato dip and then smeared with the thickest coating of the yummiest avocado…..and eating it.

Now, I do know if you’re really eating health-ily and consciously [which is ‘The Diet’ I aspire to follow] you’re not supposed to eat after Sunset…..and I’m guessing that means all the way till Sunrise…… And yet, that’s not what I am writing about, I remind myself….so I hereby retrieve myself from digressing onto That Topic back to what I started to write about.

And it’s A Yes to Staying Up. Not going to bed…..yet. What I Started To Write About is being in the ‘wee hours’ of the morning -now 3.40AM -……..Being in the middle of researching and reading and writing – and being awake! Yes. really awake! Being right here. Right NOW!

What I am in the middle of researching and reading and writing about is Soul Mates and I’m re-reading Elizabeth Gilbert’s wonderful book Eat, Pray, Love and I must have been ‘influenced’ – you know in the ilk [isn’t ilk such a lovely word♥] of subliminal persuading such as that that goes on in advertising – by this piece where she writes about one of her early morning ‘escapades’:

“I woke up at 2:00 AM with a heavy sigh and a physical hunger so deep I didn’t have any idea how to satisfy it. The lunatic cat who lives in my house was howling mournfully for some reason and I told him, “I know exactly how you feel.” I had to do something about my longing, so I got up, went to the kitchen in my nightgown, peeled a pound of potatoes, boiled them up, sliced them, fried them in butter, salted them generously and ate every bite of them – asking my body the whole while if it would please accept the satisfaction of a pound of friend potatoes in lieu of the fulfillment of lovemaking.” [pg 300]

Just wanted to say. Mine isn’t emotional eating. Nor in lieu of lovemaking. I’m totally emotionally full writing. This is how-do-you-fit-everything-into-a single-day♥ Or night as is the case.

This is another of the topics that Elizabeth writes about. Having an amazing variety of  choices in life. How to fit it all into a day, a week, a month, a year, a life…..And I’m thinking I am inspired by how Elizabeth took the year off to travel to and live in Italy, India and Bali….in her efforts to find balance in her life. Yes I am inspired. Much More than inspired when I think about it. Take-A-Whole-Year-Off to explore who she is and what she wants in her life! Absolutely amazing and completely indulgent. And……. actually, there isn’t a word I can come up with that adequately describes Such An Act. An Act of self-LOVE…..of self-care, of___________. Definitely courageous. I am impressed. I am influenced.

After reading Eat, Pray, Love, Jane [also influenced] asked herself one question—why am I not living with passion♥ So she made a list of all the things she wanted to do in her life. Then the inevitable question pops up – How can she go through her list without becoming self-centered or selfish♥

“In Mandarin Chinese, they have two words for selfish,”
“One means doing that which is beneficial to you.
The other means hoarding, greedy and cruel.” responds Elizabeth.

What a good distinction. Elizabeth suggest Jane looks at her list and asks herself if she is being greedy or if the activity is beneficial to her:

“When you operate from a place of doing those things that help you step into your own worth, when you fill up your own skin with yourself, that alone becomes your offering…..Every single person that you meet, you transmit that to. Be a good example for how to live a happy, wonderful, blessed life.”

Question for you: what passion of yours are you not living♥ Make a list of of all the things you want to do in your life.

For some it is very hard to make a list of what they want.  Is it for you♥ This step is essential as changing your life starts with you figuring out what you Do Want

EXERCISE: To find out what you Do Want make a List of Your Don’t Wants. Do this for just one area of your life or for all areas – such as relationships, health, fitness, finances, career/business, family, spiritual, social, Other…..Put all your Don’t Wants on left column on page and then on right side turn those Don’t Wants into Do Wants.

For Example: area of My Ideal Relationship:
Don’t Want – they don’t pay attention and tune in to me
Do Want – gives me undivided attention and is attuned to me

MIRRORING TOPIC: Share with someone the impact of this post. MIRROR each other for a minimum of 5 minutes about the things you want to do in your life and what passion(s) of yours you are not living. What is ONE thing you will start experimenting with♥

My suggestion is to start with ONE item on your list. Create a strategy of how you will achieve that. Your commitment to the strategy is more important that the strategy itself. Creating a ‘live’ PLAN listing all the things you want in order of importance to you is also good.
– focus on doing them ONE at a time.
– the ‘live’ PLAN is important as when information and ideas come up about other items put it into your PLAN at the right point of priority and then forget about it until it is at the top of your list of things to do.

Ooops it’s now 4:40 AM and I say out loud Go To Bed! So I am! And Yes more on Soul Mates and other Elizabeth Gilbert inspired topics another time. Anyone interested to read or re-read Eat, Pray, Love along with me♥………

Good-night, Good-day, with LOVE and passion, Susie

My dear Subscribers – my Apologies! You were emailed an incomplete post. I did the ‘Horror Of All Horror Things’ last night – first time in 227 posts – I hit the Publish Button instead of the Preview Button and my incomplete finished blog post got sent to you!!! ): That’s a risk when one is tired and weary! Then on top of that straight away after it got sent off “serendipitously” the power and Internet WENT OFF. The rain and the wind were raging outside – we’ve been having unprecedented wind and thunder and lightning storms here in West Australia over the last few days – so I haven’t been able to correct it before now. I request you please disregard and delete that last email. Fortunately the Internet connections stayed long enough for me to delete it off the blog.