♥ DAILY LOVE TIP – Sunday January 29, 2012

Hello Treasured and Valued ♥Ones…..

I have just found this amazing THINquote and we have decided to adopt it as a new TOOL in our Communication TOOLBOX/TREASURE CHEST. What a great list of questions to ask ourselves to clean up what comes out of our mouths………Problem is we just need to engage our brain to ask the questions ‘in the heat of the moment’!! 🙂

Stopping horrible, mean, nasty, hurtful, reactive, attacking, snarly, abusive, criticizing, sarcastic words……………………  in fact all the SCABS  [a quick review for the Grads of the work – test yourself before looking…]


By THE SCABS we mean:

Criticism, Contempt, C-ondescension

….it’s just such a continuing task….. You know all those words that you wished you hadn’t said when you’ve calmed down…….. I don’t know about you but I need help with this one….. Jumping in to protect myself using strong, loud words which are emphasized with TONE and harsh face is so hard-wired in me it just takes over against all my resolves and good intentions. It is embarrassing to own up at my inability to stay conscious and LOVE-ing all the time…….

How do you stop yourself being reactive and unkind♥

You know I’m sitting here having a fantasy of finding a  DEVICE which we could attach/insert into our mouths which our words would go through and it would eliminate all that aren’t TRUE , HELPFUL ,  INSPIRING , NECESSARY and KIND….all the ones that are negative and horrible….maybe it could be a bit like braces or a mouth guard…..maybe with a magical salve or a computer chip in them and it would delete or eliminate any words that don’t fit the format….. or maybe again we could just take some sort of

MAGIC ELIXIR or POTION♥♥•*¨*•.¸¸ ¸¸.•*¨*¸.•*¨`* 

OR call on our dear ole•*¨*•.¸¸♥ 

FAIRY GOD MOTHER with her Magic wand •*¨*•.¸¸♥

or take a daily  VITAMIN KBe KIND VITAMIN …….. or maybe wear a MUZZLE that doesn’t even let us open our mouth…..

or just plain old masking tape or duct tape…..




Any you can think of♥…………….Hey let’s help each other here…. What do you do that helps you to stay ‘conscious’ and kind and LOVE-ing♥ Any great tips♥♥♥ Ones that work so that you actually use the TOOLS

Hope you’re getting the message that I don’t think overriding and replacing those old protective/defensive responses that are our default way of behaving is something that is going to happen easily…..In fact, let me UNDERLINE IT – it is NOT going to happen easily…….we need all the help we can get!

Several of the participants in the Getting The Love You Want” Imago Couples Communication Workshop this weekend really appreciated THINK as a practice to support them to create LOVE and connection and the ZERO NEGATIVITY ♥ZONE [ZNZ!]…….so it reinforced us adding it to our TOOLBOX.


One of my favourite parts of the Workshop is giving the couples the TOOLBOX with the various TOOLS and teaching them how, when and where to use them. How great it is that the TOOLBOX is  a work-in-progress and there are so many talented people out there coming up with exciting ideas all the time….. It’s such a joy to have creative user-friendly Resources that work that make a difference to people’s lives and LOVE-ing.

Question for you: Share with a Beloved whether THINis a TOOL you would like to experiment with practicing in your relationships – either using it yourself or requesting ‘the other’ – your partner/child/parent/co-worker/friend – to use it.

MIRRORING TOPICShare with someone what this post brings up for you, triggers in you, how it impacts you and have them ♥MIRROR you for a minimum of 5 minutes. Then swap and you ♥MIRROR their sharing.

For a review of the skill of MIRRORING see DAILY LOVE TIP – Sat July 9, 2011       http://susiesheartpathblog.wordpress.com/2011/07/09/%E2%99%A5mirroring-giving-quality-attention-deep-heart-listening/

Here’s another version I found of THINK you may prefer….

I read the following the other day and it moved me so I thought I would “borrow” it:

Just the simple act of you sharing this post with a few people could have a profound impact on hundreds, or even thousands of people who you will probably never even meet.
How cool is that♥
Thank You in advance for doing your part in helping make the world a better place

Here’s to lots of THINK-ING going on…..appreciatively & with MuchLOVE & BLESSINGS, Susie♥ 

“When we are angry we are blind to reality. Anger may bring us a temporary burst of energy, but that energy is blind and it blocks the part of our brain that distinguishes right from wrong. To deal with our problems, we need to be practical and realistic. If we are to be realistic, we need to use our human intelligence properly, which means we need a calm mind.” ~ Dalai Lama